Today, We Remember TDOR

Today, We Remember TDOR

Transgender Day Of Remembring, my thoughts on today:

It's a hard week, knowing what's coming up. Every year I feel differently and every year I read the same heartfelt messages from young and old, all different people from different walks of life. We all have one thing in common. Today, we remember. Our hearts slightly heavier than usual. We still do everything we would normally do, but with a heavy sigh weighing on our minds as we think about those we have lost. To most it's just a Monday in November. To us, it's our lives, our history, our fears, hopes and our camaraderie. All of my feelings about being trans I am hyper aware of on this day.

Our trans sisters and brothers, who came before us and paved the way for us.. the ones that we take this day to remember, the ones who fought for us to gain some footing and respect in a society that hardly even notices us, and the ones who were just trying to enjoy something as simple as the life they knew they deserved,.. they are in our thoughts today more than ever.

So many of us have been lost to mindless hate that we have to face on some level everyday, but their fight will not go unseen. We only continue to thrive because of our fallen siblings who deserved so much more, so much better. Our love for you runs as deeps as our hopes that one day we will remember you as we cheer, accepted and no longer afraid to be ourselves. We remember you, we will never forget you, and the potential cost of standing up for ourselves. You are the reason we are still here and you are why we still fight. 

You are the reason we are still here for each other, to be recognized and accepted, respected and treated as humans with agency of our own minds and bodies, so that our trans siblings can do what is in their best interest physically and mentally without fear of rejection or shame, or murder.  We want a world where trans folks, and any other marginalized group can live safely, passionately and authentically as themselves. This is something I'd like to remember you for when it gets too hard and we have to remember why we pick ourselves back up and continue to fight. When we light a candle in your honor, when we close our eyes and hope that we wake up to better days. 

My fallen sisters and brothers, you are why we will always keep fighting for acceptance and equality. Thank you for all you have done for the world.

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