You probably thought that I was going to tell you that cupcakes and other desserts can be an integral part of your treatment. If you thought that, then you already know that this is true, and I don't need to tell you something you already know. No, today, I'm actually talking about treatment and cupcakes.
Treatment, don't we all love trying new types of treatment for our Mental Illnesses and other challenges? No, the answer is a big NO. The majority of us don't want to try different types of treatments for our recovery. It's complex, there are many reasons why we don't want to, but many individuals will give up entirely after trying a single therapist. Here's why it's not as simple as just trying one therapist and finding the perfect fit instantly:
Imagine you're going to a cupcake shop. You've never tried cupcakes before, you kind of know what they look like but you don't know the difference between the icing, the filling, and the cupcakes themselves. You walk in, and find hundreds of different cupcakes in the store. You browse for hours, days, wondering what you need to do to find the perfect one. You might ask other customers, maybe one of the sales people behind the counter can help. Finally, you decide to try one. Maybe you decide on a simple vanilla or chocolate, or something a bit more complex, like walnut or lemon poppy seed cupcakes. You try the lemon, maybe take a small bite before committing to a dozen. It tastes terrible, you put it down. This is when many will run away, leave the store, a half-eaten lemon cupcake behind.
Or, you can decide to try again.
Maybe you're going to try the walnut this time. It might be better, it might be worse.
Throughout this experience you are learning about the things that work for you and the things that don't. You start narrowing down your list, deciding on what you actually need, the type of cupcake, icing, filling, and everything else. So you try again, from a much smaller list, and it still might not be perfect but it's getting there. Then finally, at some point, you find the perfect ones. I say ones, because it's not about finding your soul mate cupcake. It's about finding the right tastes, and the ones that will help, which can be all of them, or just a few.
It's the same way with finding the right therapist. It's not a matter of finding the right therapist instantly, although that would be nice. It's about finding the right ones, throughout your journey. Along the way things might change, and the cupcakes that you once loved are no longer enough, and so you go back into the store and you go through the process again.
Not finding the right cupcake instantly, is not a deal breaker, it's just a part of the process. We are not taught to know how to find the perfect cupcake without sampling some first. So why do we treat therapy and other treatments as things that have to fit perfectly instantly?
Ahmad Abojaradeh is the Co-Founder of Muslim Community Link, An Engineer, a world traveler, a Peer Support Specialist, a Novelist and the founder and editor of Life in My Days. He hopes to spread awareness of living a life of wellness through his writing, workshops and speaker events. Follow Ahmad on twitter, instagram or facebook.